The tradition of groomsmen and bridesmaids can be dated back to Roman law; they needed 10 witnesses to fool evil spirits. The bridal party dressed identically to the bride and groom so the evil spirits wouldn’t know which couple was getting married.
It is safe to say that we have come a long way, nowadays we don’t focus too much on having to ward off evil spirits. Today a bridal party, normally, represents those friends and family who have helped the couple get through difficult times, have traveled a great distance with the bride or groom and is someone who has helped them arrived at this point in their life.
So these people who make up a wedding party are some pretty incredible, beautiful and remarkable people. During the most stressful moments of wedding planning, they may be treated as servants. Don’t lose focus of who they are and why they are a part of your ceremony.
Wedding party members often shell out a lot of their dollars to insure they are dressed the way you want them with dresses, shoes, hair styling’s, tux’s, and sometimes transportation. This often requires something more than “thanks” from you both!
Each of these individuals are just that… individuals. While a common thread of style and theme is normally in order, remember there are no evil spirits out to sabotage weddings so there is no need to make the bridal party into mini-me’s. Individuality is always a welcomed element in any wedding.
In closing, for couples whom I help plan and organize their wedding, I always make sure they have handy guides to give their Best Man, Father of the Bride, and Maid/Matron of Honor. These guides help them with writing the toast, reminding them of their “traditional” duties and few words of encouragement. Remember that they are people too, and these wonderful people may have never played the role you are asking them too. Don’t set them up for failure, help them help you have an incredible ceremony!
Let’s meet so we can understand your vision, priorities and plans. Experience the difference of being married by a friend of the family and not a stranger!
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ABOUT INCLUSIVE LIFE…
Inclusive Life has been offering Pastoral Services to those in Iowa and Nebraska since 2009. We are a Nebraska, Nonprofit, Independent-Multifaith Community providing religious, nonreligious, and spiritual care and services. We serve individuals, couples and families who do not have a family pastor or church, those who are not served by churches. We serve all without exception.
We offer Pastoral Care, Officiate Weddings, Prepare End of Life Documents, provide hospital visits, perform: Baptisms, naming ceremonies, blessings, dedications, and Officiate Funerals.
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