How To Be A Good Wedding Guest

  1. Send in your RSVP! A lot of times couples are planning seating charts or need to have final headcounts to their venues and caterers several weeks before their events. So be a good guest and send in that pre-stamped RSVP card and don’t forget to write your names on the card!
  2. RSVP only for who is actually invited! While you may be very close to the couple getting married, don’t just assume that you’ve been offered a plus one or that your children are invited to the wedding. Wedding budgets are extremely tight and couples put a lot of thought into their guest lists and unfortunately that sometimes means having to make difficult cuts or deciding to have an adults only wedding. Whoever the invitation is addressed to is who is actually invited to attend.
  3. Never, I repeat NEVER, wear an all White or Ivory dress to a wedding. PERIOD! The only exception to this would be if the couple specifically says that it’s okay for a guest to wear an all white or ivory dress. Otherwise, just don’t do it!
  4. And while we’re on the topic of what not to wear, don’t wear jeans and a t-shirt to a wedding! Again, unless the couple specifically says that this is okay, you should dress to impress! Typically, the couple will have the desired dress code on the invitation itself or even noted on their wedding website.
  5. Always be on time! You should plan to arrive 15-30 minutes prior to the ceremony start time. While sometimes traffic and construction can delay your arrival, the last thing you would want is to be walking down the aisle after the processional has begun!
  6. Put your phone or camera away! While we know everyone wants to get that shot of the Bride walking down the aisle or the first kiss, please leave it to the professionals to capture those moments! So unless you’re the paid professional photographer or videographer, your focus should be living in the moment of the unity happening right in front of you!
  7. Drink responsibly! Not to get all PSA on you, but drinking to ridiculous excess isn’t just unbecoming, it’s dangerous, especially if you don’t have a safe ride home lined up beforehand. When the couple provides an open bar, they’re providing a courtesy. A great way to show your gratitude for this: Pace yourself so you can continue to toast the happy couple well into the wee hours of the morn!


Now that we’ve given you a few tips to help you be a good guest at a wedding, we hope you’ll bring your wedding guest A-game to the next wedding you attend!


Photo by Randy Edwards Photos LLC


Written by Jen Mrsny

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